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Monique Marvez makes audiences laugh with her unique stand up comedy.Monique Marvez makes audiences laugh with her unique stand up comedy. (Photo courtesy Scott Sands)

Latina comedians make strides in male-dominated profession

by Erika L. Sánchez

5:00 am on 11/30/2012

Patti Vasquez decided to become a comedian when she first saw Margaret Cho. She says she saw many similarities between Cho’s Korean mother, who is a big part of her routine, and her own Mexican mother.

“It never occurred to me that I had a story to tell until I heard someone tell one much like mine,” she says.

So she took the plunge and dropped out of graduate school to pursue comedy.

Comedian Patti Vasquez (Photo by Mark McCoy)

Vasquez describes her current comedy as a journey of what’s going on in her head. “I talk about the foibles and follies of the people around me,” she says.

Dropping out of grad school to tell others her story through comedy proved to be the right choice since she has now appeared on various television shows and has headlined in comedy clubs and colleges all over the United States, Canada and Europe.

Women like Vasquez are breaking barriers. Being both a woman and a Latina in an already competitive and male-dominated profession presents a unique set of obstacles. Everyone knows who George Lopez is, but there is no Latina stand-up comedian who has reached that level of fame.  Sure you can point to Sofia Vergara and how she has carved her place in “Modern Family” as the funny Latina, but so far no Latina stand-up comedians have made it big on the screen.

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Marga Gomez, a comedian who started out in the gay comedy scene in San Francisco over 20 years ago, says women are discouraged from being comics because comedy is very powerful. Latinas must also first overcome cultural obstacles and then navigate a field that is often very homogenous.

Comedian – Marga Gomez (Photo by Robert Barbutti)

“Women are marginalized. Latinos are marginalized,” she says. “If as a Latina comic you want to talk about your experience, it’s hard to make it relevant to the larger audience.”

Monique Marvez, who has appeared on the “Latin Divas of Comedy” and the “The Bad Girls of Comedy,” believes Latinas are often taught that family comes first and must sublimate their desires. “It took me well into my 30s because I had to undo my Latina inculcation,” she says.

Another “Latin Diva of Comedy,” Sandra Contreras, whose material focuses on social commentary and women’s experiences, says, “It’s a constant struggle to be recognized by non-Latino audiences.

 

There is still a resistance to allow Latinas to take a lead.”

Comedian Sara Contreras (Photo courtesy by Gerard H. Gaskin )

She believes, however, that some Latinas also pigeon-hole themselves by basing their material on stereotypes, which she refuses to do. “I won’t make fun of my people,” she says.

Vasquez believes there has been a resistance to female comedians in general and people often tell her “I usually don’t like female comedians, but I think you’re funny.”

There is no denying that women are funny, no matter how many times male comedians argue otherwise and no matter how many articles try to refute this. And becoming a successful Latina comedian is incredibly challenging but not impossible. These women prove it.

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“Don’t let the common belief that Latina women can’t make it in comedy stop you,” Gomez says.

Understanding how difficult it is to make it in the business, Gomez makes an effort to include new Latina comics at Comedy Bodega, a weekly show she hosts in San Francisco’s only Latino Drag Club.

Marvez uses a particular image to illustrate her advice to other Latinas pursuing comedy– “There are two steps,” she says, “Open the kimono — let people see who you are. Then drop it to the ground. You have to find your own voice. The more personal you can make something, the more universal it becomes.”

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Why I Choose to be Politically Incorrect

I often write about topics many would find awkward or unpleasant. Give me a subject that will make people squirm or abuelas cry, and I’ll gladly take pen to paper. Ever since I was young, I have hoped for the privilege of pissing off the Pope. I’ve been like this ever since I was a pre-pubescent brat, always sharing my unconventional opinions at whatever cost. Imagine a bitchy teenager telling her traditional Mexican family she’s pro choice. You can surmise that there was a lot of gasping and clutching of kerchiefs. Though no longer that obnoxious, in many ways, I haven’t changed.

I’m not delusional enough to believe I’m some sort of martyr. I know I’m not causing revolutions or rebellions with my writing. What I mostly do is rant about things that piss me off. (I have several scrolls with lists of topics). I that part of my purpose in life is to air out some of our cultural and societal dirty laundry because I feel nothing will ever improve unless we we incessantly analyze, discuss, and argue. I think it’s necessary to talk about race, for example, until we’re all so nauseated we must all hover over a collective toilet.

My writing comes with many consequences that I’ve already accepted. I know that no matter what I write, even if I think it’s tepid or innocuous, someone somewhere is going to be irate. I can write about my love of Italian Beef sandwiches and someone will send me an angry email declaring me a racist communist self-hating food elitist or something along those lines.

When I write about myself, I get the most angry responses. A few examples: “well, that’s not my experience; not all Latino men/women are like that; why are you generalizing Latinos?; you’re making us look bad,” etc. When I write these autobiographical pieces, I’m obviously writing about my own experiences. That’s what “autobiographical” means! If I’m making myself look bad, please let me. I never claim to speak for all Latinas, Mexicans, feminists, women, writers, poets, muppet lovers, curmudgeons, or cheese enthusiasts. When someone writes me an angry email or comment about how my piece did not represent his/her reality, I think to myself, what exactly is your point? I never claimed to write universal truths. Why is this even an issue?

When I write about the “Latino community” and “Latino issues,” I understand that there isn’t a homogenous group of Latinos who think, feel, and eat the same things. We don’t all gather to eat tacos and agree on abortion. Generalizations, however, are necessary to simply have a conversation. Latinos often have similar histories, cultures, and experiences in this country. I understand that your Puerto Rican grandma and Danny Trejo are not the same person. Please give me the benefit of the doubt. I’m smart. Please also note that I can’t write about every single experience of every person who ever lived.

I get exasperated by this excessive political correctness. Think it’s backwards and counterproductive. If you write about a particular group that you’re not a part of, for instance, people get pissed. I once angered someone because I made a joke about a pre-op transexual gnome. A gnome! This person said that it was offensive and that it wasn’t anyone’s business that the gnome was pre-op. I laughed so hard I hurt myself. Every time I have to explain satire to someone, I lose hope in humanity. Comedy couldn’t even exist if everyone had to be politically correct. The genius of Dave Chappelle wouldn’t be possible. All we would have is Carrot Top (shudders). Would you want to live in that kind of world? Would you?!

Though I can’t often prove this with with scientific data, I know a lot of people get angry with me because I’m a brown woman with opinions. Being a dignified Mexican woman gets people all worked up. With so many Latinas shaking their maracas on TV, some people get confused by the educated ones. (Please note that there are many of us in the world). Men in particular seem really bothered by what I write. Sometimes I get hate mail or creepy messages. To those gentlemen I would strongly suggest to boink a cactus.

I’m not going to lie — even though I frequently get annoyed by such narrow-minded comments, there is a part of me secretly throwing confetti. If I get people to have a reaction, and possibly engage in a dialogue, then I know I’ve accomplished what I set out to do. But don’t get me wrong– I’m very careful about what I write. Whatever I publish, you can assume it’s taken me hours upon hours (and frequently weeks, months, or years) to craft. I ruminate, obsess, and revise. My writing dictates my life. But if every time I sat down to write I thought of every person in the world I might offend, I would be so paralyzed with fear that I’d never write a damn word. No one would.

 

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Latinas are getting into interracial relationships more often than Latino men and breaking barriers.

Latina women chipping away at the stigma of interracial marriages


by Erika L. Sánchez

5:00 am on 09/13/2012

Natalia Walker’s mother was shocked when she learned her daughter was dating a black man.

“My mom and I were very, very close and then she stopped talking to me for three months. Every time my husband would come and pick me up, she would say something degrading,” she says.

The tension between them even caused backlash from the rest of the family. That was 5 years ago. But despite the family drama, she stayed with him. Now they are happily married.

Though miscegenation has been legal in the United States since 1967, and interracial relationships are common in our lives and in the media, many publically continue to criticize these couples. As recently as 2010, a Louisiana justice of the peace in New Orleans refused to issue a marriage license to an interracial couple. He claimed he wasn’t racist, but did it out of concern for their future children. In 2011 a Kentucky church even voted to ban interracial couples from their congregation.

Sometimes the biggest challenge a couple faces is not criticism from their families, but the negative reactions from strangers.

Lily Hernandez, 27, a Mexican American woman who has been dating her white boyfriend for a year now, says that her mother was initially worried about how his family would treat her, but that both of their families turned out to be open-minded. Surprisingly, strangers are actually the ones who seem the most worried about their relationship.

“We get stared at more at places where most of the people are Hispanic,” she says. And recently, an older white man at the mall became visibly upset after her boyfriend gave her a kiss. “He was so disgusted and shook his head.”

But interracial couples are more common than ever. According to Census data released in April, the number of interracial couples in the United States has reached an all-time high, with one in every 10 American opposite-sex married couples saying they’re of mixed races, and about 18 percent of opposite-sex unmarried couples and 21 percent of same-sex unmarried partners identifying themselves as interracial. 14.2 percent of married Hispanic women, compared to 13.3 percent of Hispanic married men, had a non-Hispanic spouse in 2010. Hispanics and Asiansalso remain the most likely, as in previous decades, to marry someone of a different race.

Regardless, couples still have to deal with judgement from their families and the rest of the society.

“Focus on one another,” Vanessa Ramirez, 28, suggests. After 10 years in an interracial relationship, she sounds like an expert in dealing with awkward and painful moments. “If someone says something in front of you, discuss it in private.”

Ramirez also believes you can choose to remove yourself from people who disapprove. After she confronted one of her cousins about a racist comment, her cousin apologized for her ignorance, but Ramirez still chose to distance herself from her.

Hernandez usually just ignores comments or stares. While her boyfriend confronted the man who judged them at the mall, she just shrugged it off. “You can’t change the way that others view your relationship. You shouldn’t let people dictate how you act as a couple,” she says.

But some experts believe that education should teach individuals how to censor any racist beliefs they might have. Lawrence Lengbeyer, Ph.D, says, “The central practical solution to racism is thus affirmatively educating people, and helping them train themselves to continually activate such lessons as needed.” Though strangers may not be open to a dialogue, educating your family can be valuable in addressing racism.

Walker says that her family was eventually able to see who her partner was as a person and that her mother realizes she made a mistake. She now uses her painful experience to help her having similar conflicts. “Be patient,” she says. “Educate them and don’t take it personally.”

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Jezebel

oh hells nah - I Wanted To Marry A Latino And Fell For A White Guy
JUL 22, 2011 3:35 PM   

I Wanted To Marry A Latino And Fell For A White Guy

In college there was no doubt in my mind that I would marry a Mexican. I didn’t want my culture to be diluted. I wanted to live in a Spanish-speaking household. I wore Ché Guevara berets with rebozos and Tehuana blouses. I just stopped short of wearing a poncho and purchasing a donkey just to really make a point. I wanted my partner to understand my family, and not judge them for being so incredibly loud.

Fast forward seven years and I am living with my white boyfriend. Throughout my early 20s, I avoided white guys. I didn’t want to “sell out” (though it can be debated that I always was a “sell out”). I didn’t want to live in fear of them saying something racist. I didn’t want to be their “Latina college experience.” Sometimes I believed they wouldn’t even find me attractive. I also didn’t want to have to explain what a “chancla” was or what I meant when I said I was “empachada.” I also didn’t want to explain my Chespirito references (like when I get “la chiripiorca“).

I just wanted them to understand.

But that didn’t work out. The brown men I dated didn’t do well with my independent nature. Some of them were off put by my very non-traditional beliefs and lifestyle. I’m not generalizing, though. I’m sure that there are plenty of educated brown men who are comfortable dating unconventional brown women and don’t secretly want a white girl. Please don’t send me angry emails, for I know these men exist. I, however, never met one who showed any interest in me. Believe me – I looked. Also, the further I got into my education, I’m talking about graduate school, the fewer Latinos I came across.

That is not to say that dating a white man was my last resort. Far from it. I can’t imagine a better partner for myself. I’m lucky to have found him. It’s in meeting him that I let go of many of preconceived notions. For example, not all white people eat boiled hot dogs for dinner, listen to Dave Matthews Band, and do the funky chicken at weddings. These are things I simply did not know. My boyfriend sincerely wanted to know about my culture, he valued my intelligence and was interested in my innumerable opinions. He even watched Chespirito for me. Clearly, to him I wasn’t just some spicy Latina shaking my proverbial maracas. At this point in our four-year relationship, sometimes he makes some salsas that are better than mine. He often speaks Spanish without even realizing it.

Of course, there are tensions that result from cultural misunderstandings. Having grown up poor as hell, my complexes about class have made some star appearances. Also, having been condescended to so many times in my life for being a woman of color - ”Oh how cute, that little Mexican girl thinks she’s a writer!” - I can be extremely defensive. If I even suspect someone is patronizing me, I lose my temper (cue neck jerk and obligatory “Oh hells nah!”).

Sometimes I’m wrong, though.

Most of the time, I forget that we’re an interracial couple. Once and a while, however, other people seem to be really bothered by it. I can’t count how many times a white woman has given me a dirty look when I’m with my boyfriend. And no, it’s not all in my head! Also, when we go to nice restaurants, particularly with his family, the Mexican busboys look at me with confusion and sometimes judgment and disappointment. I can’t express to you how awkward and guilty I feel at these moments.

At first, my mom was also worried that his family would be racist, which is perfectly reasonable since Mexicans are not exactly considered the upper echelon of society where I come from. I had to reassure my mother many times that my boyfriend’s parents were actually very kind to me. I used to think that the saying “You can’t choose who love” was stupid and sappy because I thought that we could, in fact, chose who to love. That may still be true, but had I dismissed the nice white man I met at the grad school mixer simply because he was white, I would have missed out on the best relationship I’ve ever been in.

There are so many interracial couples in this country, I don’t see why people are still offended by it. We all have our particular preferences. It’s very reasonable to have certain criteria when looking for a partner but consider allowing yourself to be surprised sometimes. And, I suppose, the the world can judge us all it wants because last time I checked, miscegenation was still legal.



This post originally appeared on NewsTaco. Republished with permission.


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